--- product_id: 13313854 title: "Making Marriage Work: New Rules for an Old Institution" price: "NZ$56" currency: NZD in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.nz/products/13313854-making-marriage-work-new-rules-for-an-old-institution store_origin: NZ region: New Zealand --- # 22 years marriage wisdom Top-rated relationship guide Judge Lynn Toler's expert insights Making Marriage Work: New Rules for an Old Institution **Price:** NZ$56 **Availability:** βœ… In Stock ## Summary > πŸ’ Unlock the secret formula to lasting love and skip the heartbreak! ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Making Marriage Work: New Rules for an Old Institution - **How much does it cost?** NZ$56 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.nz](https://www.desertcart.nz/products/13313854-making-marriage-work-new-rules-for-an-old-institution) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Key Features - β€’ **Highly Acclaimed & Trusted:** 4.8-star rating from over 1,000 readers who swear by its transformative advice. - β€’ **Bridging Communication Gaps:** Offers proven techniques to navigate the hormonal and emotional divides between partners. - β€’ **Practical, No-Nonsense Rules:** Forget fairy talesβ€”this book treats marriage like a job with actionable strategies for lasting success. - β€’ **Culturally Relevant & Relatable:** Addresses modern challenges like instant gratification and unrealistic expectations head-on. - β€’ **Timeless Wisdom Meets Modern Reality:** Leverages 22 years of real marriage experience and courtroom expertise to decode what truly makes marriage work today. ## Overview Making Marriage Work by Judge Lynn Toler combines her 22 years of marriage and Divorce Court experience to deliver a practical, updated guide for modern couples. With a 4.8-star rating and thousands of readers, it offers actionable rules and communication strategies designed to help couples overcome today's unique challenges and build a resilient partnership. ## Description As the judge starring on the hit nationally syndicated television show Divorce Court , Lynn Toler witnesses, en masse, the thematic mistakes made in American marriages. She herself has also been wed for 22 years and has seen both the highs and lows of matrimony in her own marriage as well as the marriages of those close to her. While the national divorce rate hovers around the 50% threshold, there is a lot of chatter that marriage as we know it is an outdated institution--that we are too selfish, too unwilling to make sacrifices, and too misguided by elevated expectations of happiness to make marriage work. While these points may hold some validity, a lot of this chatter is nothing new. So what's causing so many divorces and, perhaps even more importantly, what are we to do about it if we want marriage to survive? Drawing from both her professional career and personal life, Toler sees that the biggest impediment to marriage these days is that couples decide to take the plunge based almost entirely on the most irrational criteria: falling in love. Making Marriage Work doesn't suggest that love has nothing to do with marriage at all; rather, Toler says that love by itself is simply not enough to make marriages survive. This book is a logical and simple guide to reintroducing some of the practicality of marriage that has leaked out of it over the years. Marriage, Toler says, is a job, and it needs to be treated like one. However, the makeup and consistency of this job has changed so much over the past few decades that the old rules no longer apply. Making Marriage Work is an updated manual to help get the job of marriage done right in this day and age. It suggests specific procedures that should be put in place to bridge the gap between head over heels and happily ever after. It explains how to phrase things in order to span the great hormonal divide men and women often fall into when trying to talk to one another. It also discusses the very new and real challenges to marriage created in a culture often overwhelmed by the emphasis on (and ability to attain) instant gratification. Replete with simple, no-nonsense rules, Divorce Court anecdotes, and stories about Judge Toler's own union, Making Marriage Work contains invaluable information couples can use today to secure their marital tomorrow. Review: "LIL BIT" GOT IT GOING ON...SHE HAS EARNED HER STRIPES.... - WHEN IT COMES TO [LIFE & LIVING]..."LIL-BIT OF LYNN", JUDGE TOLLER, GOT IT GOING ON. SHE'S GOT SOME OVERALL LIFE EXPERIENCE TO GO WITH HER MOTHER'S HOME TEACHING. HER KNOWLEDGE GOES DEEP AND SHE KNOWS HOW TO TALK TO PEOPLE. THE YOUNG PEOPLE DO GET A GOOD TEACHER ON HER SHOW: divorce court. AND IT DON'T HURT TO BE CUTE-LOOKING... SHE COULD SELL HER CONFIDENCE BY THE POUND. AND SHE WANTS YOU TO HAVE YOUR CONFIDENCE TOO...VERY MUCH! I REMEMBER WHEN SHE STARTED OUT, SHE WAS NOT AS "LEARNED" AS SHE IS NOW. SHE DOES A GOOD JOB. [ *I HAVE HER BOOKS BUT HAVE NOT READ & REVIEWED THEM AS YET.] I''VE BEEN RESEARCHING HER SHOW. I WANT TO BE IN ON ACKNOWLEDGING AND NAMING HER TO BE ONE OF THE BEST AMERICAN SOURCES AND RESOURCES FOR "LIFE & LIVING" TEACHING FOR MODERN TIMES. SHE COMES BEHIND SOME OF THE BEST AND MAYA ANGELOU WAS ONE OF THE GREATEST. BUT WE SHOULD ALSO CONSIDER HILLARY CLINTON AND MRS. OBAMA "TO COME". MRS. OBAMA IS NOT "DONE" YET. she's still in the oven. SHE'S STILL PRETTY YOUNG; SHE'S ABOUT JUDGE TOLLER'S AGE BUT TOLLER SEEMS TO HAVE THE "RIGHT STUFF" FOR HER "MARKET" & "WORLD" NICHE. BUT MICHELLE OBAMA HAS A MUCH LARGER SCOPE TO CONQUER AND SHE IS STILL PARENTING HER CHILDREN. SO, SHE IS STILL LEARNING BUT SHE IS ALSO A GREAT ICON IN THE MAKING. WE HAVE TO LOOK FORWARD TO THE FIRST LADY OF THE WORLD TO FINISH GROWING. WE LOVE ALL OF THEM AND WE PRAY FOR OUR FIRST LADIES LIKE JUDGE LYNN TOLER TO KEEP GROWING AND BECOMING BECAUSE WE NEED THEM. OH LORD, WE NEED THEM. OUR CHILDREN, AMERICA'S CHILDREN NEED THESE FIRST LADIES.--Margaret Opine Review: I love Judge Lynn Toler and this book is amazing!! - I just love her, so any book written by her I know is great and this was. The entire book almost in highlighted and underlined. She is a realist about love and marriage and advocates knowing yourself and what you want vs just jumping into a commitment. 10+ stars and a must for any person thinking about a relationship, let alone marriage. ## Features - Used Book in Good Condition ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #467,162 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #570 in Parenting & Family Reference #2,086 in Marriage #7,656 in Motivational Self-Help (Books) | | Customer Reviews | 4.8 out of 5 stars 1,088 Reviews | ## Images ![Making Marriage Work: New Rules for an Old Institution - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61HKr-KqMBL.jpg) ## Available Options This product comes in different **Media Format** options. ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ "LIL BIT" GOT IT GOING ON...SHE HAS EARNED HER STRIPES.... *by M***E on July 31, 2015* WHEN IT COMES TO [LIFE & LIVING]..."LIL-BIT OF LYNN", JUDGE TOLLER, GOT IT GOING ON. SHE'S GOT SOME OVERALL LIFE EXPERIENCE TO GO WITH HER MOTHER'S HOME TEACHING. HER KNOWLEDGE GOES DEEP AND SHE KNOWS HOW TO TALK TO PEOPLE. THE YOUNG PEOPLE DO GET A GOOD TEACHER ON HER SHOW: divorce court. AND IT DON'T HURT TO BE CUTE-LOOKING... SHE COULD SELL HER CONFIDENCE BY THE POUND. AND SHE WANTS YOU TO HAVE YOUR CONFIDENCE TOO...VERY MUCH! I REMEMBER WHEN SHE STARTED OUT, SHE WAS NOT AS "LEARNED" AS SHE IS NOW. SHE DOES A GOOD JOB. [ *I HAVE HER BOOKS BUT HAVE NOT READ & REVIEWED THEM AS YET.] I''VE BEEN RESEARCHING HER SHOW. I WANT TO BE IN ON ACKNOWLEDGING AND NAMING HER TO BE ONE OF THE BEST AMERICAN SOURCES AND RESOURCES FOR "LIFE & LIVING" TEACHING FOR MODERN TIMES. SHE COMES BEHIND SOME OF THE BEST AND MAYA ANGELOU WAS ONE OF THE GREATEST. BUT WE SHOULD ALSO CONSIDER HILLARY CLINTON AND MRS. OBAMA "TO COME". MRS. OBAMA IS NOT "DONE" YET. she's still in the oven. SHE'S STILL PRETTY YOUNG; SHE'S ABOUT JUDGE TOLLER'S AGE BUT TOLLER SEEMS TO HAVE THE "RIGHT STUFF" FOR HER "MARKET" & "WORLD" NICHE. BUT MICHELLE OBAMA HAS A MUCH LARGER SCOPE TO CONQUER AND SHE IS STILL PARENTING HER CHILDREN. SO, SHE IS STILL LEARNING BUT SHE IS ALSO A GREAT ICON IN THE MAKING. WE HAVE TO LOOK FORWARD TO THE FIRST LADY OF THE WORLD TO FINISH GROWING. WE LOVE ALL OF THEM AND WE PRAY FOR OUR FIRST LADIES LIKE JUDGE LYNN TOLER TO KEEP GROWING AND BECOMING BECAUSE WE NEED THEM. OH LORD, WE NEED THEM. OUR CHILDREN, AMERICA'S CHILDREN NEED THESE FIRST LADIES.--Margaret Opine ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I love Judge Lynn Toler and this book is amazing!! *by T***N on June 5, 2024* I just love her, so any book written by her I know is great and this was. The entire book almost in highlighted and underlined. She is a realist about love and marriage and advocates knowing yourself and what you want vs just jumping into a commitment. 10+ stars and a must for any person thinking about a relationship, let alone marriage. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Must read if ur married or getting married she really tells it like it is *by J***P on August 2, 2026* Judge book about marriage great read !! ## Frequently Bought Together - Making Marriage Work: New Rules for an Old Institution - My Mother's Rules: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Emotional Genius - Dear Sonali, Letters to the Daughter I Never Had --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - πŸ›’ **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** β€” Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** β€” Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - πŸ’° **No Hidden Fees** β€” All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - πŸ”„ **15-Day Free Returns** β€” Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - πŸ”’ **Secure Payments** β€” Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** β€” Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.nz/products/13313854-making-marriage-work-new-rules-for-an-old-institution](https://www.desertcart.nz/products/13313854-making-marriage-work-new-rules-for-an-old-institution) --- *Product available on Desertcart New Zealand* *Store origin: NZ* *Last updated: 2026-09-05*