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title: "How to Talk to a Borderline 1st Edition"
brand: "joan lachkar"
price: "$280"
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# How to Talk to a Borderline 1st Edition

**Brand:** joan lachkar
**Price:** $280
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- **What is this?** How to Talk to a Borderline 1st Edition by joan lachkar
- **How much does it cost?** $280 with free shipping
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## Customer Reviews

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    Four Stars
  

*by A***S on Reviewed in the United States on November 19, 2016*

A bit difficult for a lay person to follow but interesting and informative.

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    This is some decent shitake
  

*by C***E on Reviewed in the United States on February 22, 2014*

The book is useful because it provides a realistic analysis of borderline subtypes. Having had experience with bpd I know that it does present with traits of other personality disorders.

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    Presents but does not directly argue for her own conception of the disorder
  

*by E***S on Reviewed in the United States on January 19, 2013*

I'm a Master's level clinician who is currently reading my way through every book I can find on BPD (10-15 at this point) and I have to agree with the reviews that say there is very little of practical value in this book. I'll save you the read and say the best thing I got out of, which I hadn't heard from any other sources, was that "BPD individuals bond over pain." Brilliant idea that gets almost no development beyond what you can likely figure out on your own from the statement.The book had a lot of promise but my main criticism is that while it appears to present a unique conceptualization of BPD, that foundation was never really described or argued for. It doesn't sound like she holds to mainstream interpretations, other than the perfunctory DSM references, but at the same time I really have no idea what her conceptual framework is. She does use a lot of Freudian language which may, if I were more familiar with psychoanalysis, add some cogency but like others I have a hard time subjecting myself to an outdated theoretical system so diametrically opposed to Occam's razor.One specific example: she mentions Ted Bundy as an example of BPD (which I knee-jerk reject) but never actually argues this position based on his behavior or character. She then mentions his narcissistic and anti-social traits as if they are examples of BPD which really leaves me struggling to wrap my head around what she's trying to say. Honestly it seems incoherent or possibly like she doesn't have a full grasp of the subject matter / distinctions between disorders. My best interpretation is that she believes personality disorders have a very high co-morbidity / crossover and is comfortable placing a BPD label on someone based on their early childhood experiences (Bundy) rather than their actual presentation ... not something I'm comfortable with.Instead:* Stop Walking on Eggshells - Mason & Kreger (Practically useful guide in dealing with BPDs for both therapists and family members - wonderfully realistic.)* Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder - Marsha Linehan (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)* Minding the Child - Nick Midgley (Mentalization Based Therapy)* A Dissociation Model of BPD - Russell Meares (different conceptualization with an amazing literature review and GREAT scholarly depth)* Personality Disorders and Eating Disorders - Sansone and Levitt (AMAZING coverage of the topics)* Lost in the Mirror - Moskovitz (Best popular introduction to the disorder / self-help I've read so far.)

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