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# Empowerment Focus Insightful Read Pleasure Principles She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)

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## Summary

> 📚 Elevate Your Game: Because Every Woman Deserves to be Cherished!

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- **What is this?** She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)
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## Key Features

- • **Unlock the Secrets:** Dive deep into the art of pleasure with expert insights.
- • **Empower Your Partner:** Learn techniques that prioritize her satisfaction.
- • **Transform Your Intimacy:** Elevate your relationship dynamics with thoughtful approaches.
- • **Engaging and Informative:** A blend of humor and wisdom that keeps you hooked.
- • **Practical Tips and Techniques:** Real-world advice that you can apply immediately.

## Overview

She Comes First is a groundbreaking guide that empowers men to understand and prioritize female pleasure, offering practical advice, insightful techniques, and a fresh perspective on intimacy. This book is essential for anyone looking to enhance their romantic relationships and foster deeper connections.

## Description

desertcart.com: She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner): 9780060538262: Kerner, Ian: Books

Review: Written by a man, this book informs both men and women about intimate, little known details about female sexuality. A must read! - This book was written by a man who truly understands the essentials of how to please a woman sexually. He has learned the art releasing female passion and satisfaction and describes how to do this in clear, easy to understand details. This book is a 'must read' for both men and women who want to know more about how to potentiate female sexual response,develop intimacy and deepen both emotion and physical bonds. It's a surprising reality that many, many women actually stop having sex in long-term relationships. Is actually common. By reading this book you'll be learning specific ways you can truly pleasure the woman already in your life or your prospective partner. Putting this info into practice and growing in skills of how to pleasure a woman will make it much more likely that your partner will be encouraged to engage in ongoing physical intimacy. Also, many women have never been informed about specifics of our anatomical structure in relation to sexuality. Women and men both can learn from this book more details about female physiology related to arousal and sexuality and what is actually 'normal' for most women. For example, there is a 'myth' that most women achieve orgasm primarily through penetration, and that this way is 'ultimate' and a sign of 'success.' This belief is actually not based in fact! If you want to find out more of what really DOES most bring most women to orgasm, read this book! Also, Ian has a 'tandem' book for women to learn more about male sexuality: "Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man." Ideally, in a relationship, both parties will read each of these books, openly discuss and enjoy 'practicing,' fumbling around and having fun while deepening together in passion, love and intimacy! Learning how to be an attentive, astute loving and skilled lover takes time and practice. Every woman is unique in her sexual expression. Having the willingness to admit that you don't know 'everything,' be open, enjoy being 'teachable' and to 'experiment' with using the knowledge from this book will definitely lead you down the path towards a happy and mutually satisfying intimate relationship.
Review: Every Man Needs This Book! - This is the Guide I was looking for when I determined to start dating. Every man who intends to please his lady needs to understand their biology and this book has the best explanations I've ever read. I subscribed to Maxim and Men's Health magazines back in the day and everything I new came through those publications and experimentation with my (now) wife. However, I never clearly understood what I was working with, nor did she. This book explains everything so much better than anything I've read before. The "procedures" near the end of the book may not work for everyone, but just understanding how the female body functions during sex was the real eye-opener for us.

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #2,487 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #2 in General Sexual Health #3 in Sex & Sexuality #20 in Love & Romance (Books) |
| Customer Reviews | 4.6 4.6 out of 5 stars (8,779) |
| Dimensions  | 5.5 x 0.53 x 8.25 inches |
| Edition  | Reprint |
| ISBN-10  | 0060538260 |
| ISBN-13  | 978-0060538262 |
| Item Weight  | 9.6 ounces |
| Language  | English |
| Part of series  | Kerner |
| Print length  | 240 pages |
| Publication date  | February 1, 2009 |
| Publisher  | William Morrow Paperbacks |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Written by a man, this book informs both men and women about intimate, little known details about female sexuality. A must read!
*by M***Y on November 7, 2013*

This book was written by a man who truly understands the essentials of how to please a woman sexually. He has learned the art releasing female passion and satisfaction and describes how to do this in clear, easy to understand details. This book is a 'must read' for both men and women who want to know more about how to potentiate female sexual response,develop intimacy and deepen both emotion and physical bonds. It's a surprising reality that many, many women actually stop having sex in long-term relationships. Is actually common. By reading this book you'll be learning specific ways you can truly pleasure the woman already in your life or your prospective partner. Putting this info into practice and growing in skills of how to pleasure a woman will make it much more likely that your partner will be encouraged to engage in ongoing physical intimacy. Also, many women have never been informed about specifics of our anatomical structure in relation to sexuality. Women and men both can learn from this book more details about female physiology related to arousal and sexuality and what is actually 'normal' for most women. For example, there is a 'myth' that most women achieve orgasm primarily through penetration, and that this way is 'ultimate' and a sign of 'success.' This belief is actually not based in fact! If you want to find out more of what really DOES most bring most women to orgasm, read this book! Also, Ian has a 'tandem' book for women to learn more about male sexuality: "Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man." Ideally, in a relationship, both parties will read each of these books, openly discuss and enjoy 'practicing,' fumbling around and having fun while deepening together in passion, love and intimacy! Learning how to be an attentive, astute loving and skilled lover takes time and practice. Every woman is unique in her sexual expression. Having the willingness to admit that you don't know 'everything,' be open, enjoy being 'teachable' and to 'experiment' with using the knowledge from this book will definitely lead you down the path towards a happy and mutually satisfying intimate relationship.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Every Man Needs This Book!
*by I***N on August 27, 2025*

This is the Guide I was looking for when I determined to start dating. Every man who intends to please his lady needs to understand their biology and this book has the best explanations I've ever read. I subscribed to Maxim and Men's Health magazines back in the day and everything I new came through those publications and experimentation with my (now) wife. However, I never clearly understood what I was working with, nor did she. This book explains everything so much better than anything I've read before. The "procedures" near the end of the book may not work for everyone, but just understanding how the female body functions during sex was the real eye-opener for us.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Very Good, A Little Dicatorial
*by R***K on April 4, 2011*

I enjoyed the book and learned from it. I picked up some things to enhance my skill and my lovers pleasure. I think this is an excellent book for the squeemish, those afraid or relucatant to take the dive. It walks you through in quite some detail on just what to do. The anatomy lesson and tips to make use of it are very good. I think this book is an excellent first read, and you can incorporate other tips and techniques into the foundation he lays. Try it out an get your ladies opinion of what he teaches. I had some difficulty in the hard line he takes in his philosphy of the preferred position and the duration. Not totaly sure of his point, please your woman at all costs, pushing you to overcome any of your objections, or exactly what. I do think the idea of doing what it takes to please is good, you need to be a selfless lover, it will pay you back in kind. I do find a thrill and excitement in feeling my partner's pleasure roll through her. I gave it a 4 star more for his tone and dictatorial stance of his opinion, take it for what it is worth. There is good value in what he is talking about. Much most can learn. I felt I was plenty experienced, and I learned a many good things from this book.

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