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# 300+ pages of insights Transformative healing Psychological depth It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

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## Summary

> 🌱 Break the Cycle, Heal the Future!

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## Key Features

- • **Expert Insights:** Written by a leading trauma expert for relatable understanding.
- • **Engaging Narrative:** Real-life stories that resonate and inspire change.
- • **Community Connection:** Join a movement of readers seeking healing and growth.
- • **Empower Your Journey:** Learn actionable strategies to break the cycle.
- • **Unlock Generational Wisdom:** Dive deep into the roots of inherited trauma.

## Overview

This groundbreaking book explores how inherited family trauma influences our lives and offers practical solutions to end the cycle, empowering readers to reclaim their narratives and foster emotional well-being.

## Description

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Review: This hits for systems thinking too - This book explains something many people intuit but don’t have language for: patterns persist across generations even when no one consciously remembers why. What makes this stand out is that it doesn’t frame inherited trauma as pathology—it frames it as information that hasn’t been integrated yet. The exercises are optional; the conceptual model is the real value. If you think in systems, this reads less like therapy and more like a case study in how unexamined inputs propagate forward. Useful far beyond its stated audience.
Review: Just What I Needed - I have always been interested in epigenetics and what we inherit. I really appreciated how the subject matter was discussed in a way that is easy to understand for someone who isn’t a geneticist or psychiatrist; it puts understanding and healing some of the inherited weight we carry within reach. It also helped me to see my parents and grandparents in a different light. I’m so thankful this book exists, an highly recommend it if you’re doing shadow work; it will help open doors that have felt stuck for a long time.

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #1,463 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #2 in Post-Traumatic Stress #11 in Popular Psychology Pathologies #43 in Personal Transformation Self-Help |
| Customer Reviews | 4.6 4.6 out of 5 stars (13,458) |
| Dimensions  | 5.5 x 0.75 x 8.45 inches |
| Edition  | Reprint |
| ISBN-10  | 1101980389 |
| ISBN-13  | 978-1101980385 |
| Item Weight  | 2.31 pounds |
| Language  | English |
| Print length  | 288 pages |
| Publication date  | April 25, 2017 |
| Publisher  | Penguin Life |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ This hits for systems thinking too
*by G***C on January 17, 2026*

This book explains something many people intuit but don’t have language for: patterns persist across generations even when no one consciously remembers why. What makes this stand out is that it doesn’t frame inherited trauma as pathology—it frames it as information that hasn’t been integrated yet. The exercises are optional; the conceptual model is the real value. If you think in systems, this reads less like therapy and more like a case study in how unexamined inputs propagate forward. Useful far beyond its stated audience.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Just What I Needed
*by A***S on January 25, 2026*

I have always been interested in epigenetics and what we inherit. I really appreciated how the subject matter was discussed in a way that is easy to understand for someone who isn’t a geneticist or psychiatrist; it puts understanding and healing some of the inherited weight we carry within reach. It also helped me to see my parents and grandparents in a different light. I’m so thankful this book exists, an highly recommend it if you’re doing shadow work; it will help open doors that have felt stuck for a long time.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Inspiring and Hard to Put Down
*by A***R on September 21, 2025*

I started this book a few days ago and it completely drew me in. The writing style is clear and engaging, making it easy to follow the story. What I like most is how the author connects ideas with real-life situations — it feels both practical and inspiring. Even though I’m only partway through, I’ve already highlighted several passages to revisit later. It’s the kind of book that makes you reflect and motivates you to take action. Highly recommend it to anyone looking for fresh perspective.

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