--- product_id: 6383268 title: "Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great Again" price: "NZ$35" currency: NZD in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.nz/products/6383268-reinventing-your-life-the-breakthrough-program-to-end-negative-behavior store_origin: NZ region: New Zealand --- # Personal growth Self-help guide Cognitive techniques Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great Again **Price:** NZ$35 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Summary > 🌟 Transform Your Mind, Transform Your Life! ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great Again - **How much does it cost?** NZ$35 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.nz](https://www.desertcart.nz/products/6383268-reinventing-your-life-the-breakthrough-program-to-end-negative-behavior) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Key Features - • **Actionable Steps:** Implement practical exercises for immediate results. - • **Empowerment Focus:** Cultivate a mindset that fosters resilience. - • **Proven Strategies:** Utilize evidence-based methods for lasting change. - • **Community Connection:** Join a movement of like-minded individuals. - • **Transformative Insights:** Unlock the secrets to a fulfilling life. ## Overview Jeffrey E. E. Young's 'Reinventing Your Life' is a groundbreaking self-help book that offers a comprehensive program designed to help individuals break free from negative behaviors and embrace a more fulfilling existence. With a focus on cognitive techniques and personal growth, this book provides actionable steps and proven strategies to empower readers on their journey to self-improvement. ## Description Two of America's leading psychologists, Jeffrey E. Young, Ph.D, and Janet S. Klosko, Ph.D, show readers how to free themselves from negative life patterns. Written with compassion as well as clinical insight, this thought-provoking book guides readers through the process of identifying "life traps". For example, "Do you put the needs of others before your own? Are you drawn into relationships with people who are self-centered, cold to you, misunderstand you, or use you? Do you feel inadequate compared to people around you" Followed by an engaging discussion that makes use of case studies, this book can help people change their lives by stopping the cycle of self-destruction. Review: Effective & Multi-Purpose Self-Help Book - Self-help books tend to be very broad (e.g., self-esteem) or very specific (e.g., depression, panic attacks). Not that this is a problem in itself, but what if your problems seem to float in between these extremes? Moreover, what if you are not entirely sure what your "issues" are, except that you do not like the way your life is going, are struggling in different areas--from relationships to work--and stumped as to where to put your finger on the problem? "Reinventing Your Life," which is based on Jeffrey Young's Schema Therapy, is the all-purpose, or should I say, multi-purpose book for your needs. The first 5 chapters provide the background and theory to understand your problems (what the authors call your "lifetraps") and then provide surveys to help you identify which lifetraps are interfering with your life. After this background theory section, you then only have to read the relevant chapter as each chapter is devoted to a specific lifetrap. Near the beginning of each lifetrap chapter, there's a survey to help you identify the degree to which the lifetrap is interfering in your life. The chapter then goes on to give you specific strategies with which to overcome your lifetraps. In some cases, the authors do recommend therapy in addition to self-help work as the more severe the problem, the more likely a therapist would be helpful. Now you may be wondering, "What is this lifetrap business all about?" A lifetrap can be defined as a pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaving (i.e., personality pattern) that has its origins in childhood and is a result of something that was done to us by our parents/caretakers (e.g., over-protection, harsh criticism, physical or sexual abuse, emotional neglect). Lifetraps cause us to become stuck in a repetitive pattern of interacting with others and the world that, time after time, get us into trouble with relationships and/or work. In short, life-traps lead us into self-defeating behaviour that blocks us from fully realizing our potentials and living a happy and successful life. Some of the common lifetraps the authors identify are called Unrelenting Standards (i.e., excessive self-criticism/perfectionism), Mistrust and Abuse, Abandonment, and Social Exclusion. I will briefly describe a few of them. The Mistrust & Abuse Lifetrap involves having a general distrust of others, which interferes with closeness and intimacy, but at the same time, also having a tendency to get involved in abusive relationships. The Unrelenting Standards Lifetrap involves harshly criticizing oneself when not achieving one's goals. Because this lifetrap involves perfectionistic standards (i.e., unattainable goals), this makes it easy for your inner critic to walk all over you when you "fail." You can check out the Table of Contents to see the full list of lifetraps. After coming to a full understanding of your particular lifetrap(s), each chapter then describes specific strategies to help you overcome your self-defeating pattern. To help change unhelpful thinking patterns, rational challenging of your thoughts (a cognitive strategy) and evidence-testing of your beliefs (a behavioral strategy) are suggested, which are based on the idea that changing your thinking and behaviour will change how you feel. One specific cognitive method is to write reminder/coaching cards to yourself. For instance, you could write rational statements that prepare for when you get into a situation you might get into trouble. For instance, let's say you are prone to harsh self-criticism before a high-pressure situation (e.g., a demanding work project). In your mind, if you really attend to what's going on mentally, you may notice such harsh self-talk such as, "You suck!" and "You know you'll fail!" These statements may leave you feeling inadequate, anxious, and unmotivated. Before starting the project, though, you can pull out the coaching card to help you challenge such critical thoughts and get you in a rational head space and more emotionally energized to work. In addition to cognitive and behavioral strategies, the authors also offer experiential strategies. As a psychotherapist, I have used this book with clients and will continue to do so. A person who is committed to changing and willing do the hard work will benefit greatly from its strategies. Review: Sometimes painful to read, but one of the most insightful books you will ever read - Let me start by saying that I've read dozens of self-help books, been in therapy for 4+ years throughout my life, have a Bachelor's in Psychology and did research in a psychology lab for over a year. In other words, I'm pretty familiar with psychology and the way the brains learns. With all that said, **this is one of the best psychology books I've read** (I'd put it above Firestone's "Fear of Intimacy" - both seem to talk about the same issues of schemas but in different ways). This book has provided case studies that reflected my own life, distinct lifetraps (or schemas) that help categorize my issues, and examples of origins that explain when, how, and why these schemas developed in me. I have zero doubt that anyone who reads these pages will not benefit tremendously in their day-to-day functioning afterwards. This book is still 100% a 5-star read for me. The only two downsides are that 1) the book is a bit outdated. However, you can get a pretty good look at your life's history through these pages and look up some more up to date info on schemas/lifetraps online. 2) If your problems are minor (as some of mine are), the book offers solutions that can probably fix those. However, if your problems are deep (as others of mine are) the solutions offered by the book alone won't be enough to fix your problems. I will be in therapy, no doubt. However, the insight it can provide leads you to understand why you are the way you are - a gift I think any of us would cherish and I certainly will. This book's insight has taken the blame, guilt, shame, and self-hatred out of my life that I've carried around for so long for so much of what I have done. There are not many gifts that can surpass a feeling such as that. Buy this book, read it, understand your life, see the reasons why you are the way you are more clearly, and be kinder to others and yourself as a result. ## Features - Plume - Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthough Program to End Negative Behavior...and FeelGreat Again [Paperback] [1994] (Author) Jeffrey E. Young, Janet S. Klosko, Aaron T. Beck ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #40,719 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #59 in Cognitive Psychology (Books) #99 in Post-Traumatic Stress #112 in Self-Esteem (Books) | | Customer Reviews | 4.6 out of 5 stars 3,332 Reviews | ## Images ![Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great Again - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81b8WENYV6L.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Effective & Multi-Purpose Self-Help Book *by W***S on September 9, 2011* Self-help books tend to be very broad (e.g., self-esteem) or very specific (e.g., depression, panic attacks). Not that this is a problem in itself, but what if your problems seem to float in between these extremes? Moreover, what if you are not entirely sure what your "issues" are, except that you do not like the way your life is going, are struggling in different areas--from relationships to work--and stumped as to where to put your finger on the problem? "Reinventing Your Life," which is based on Jeffrey Young's Schema Therapy, is the all-purpose, or should I say, multi-purpose book for your needs. The first 5 chapters provide the background and theory to understand your problems (what the authors call your "lifetraps") and then provide surveys to help you identify which lifetraps are interfering with your life. After this background theory section, you then only have to read the relevant chapter as each chapter is devoted to a specific lifetrap. Near the beginning of each lifetrap chapter, there's a survey to help you identify the degree to which the lifetrap is interfering in your life. The chapter then goes on to give you specific strategies with which to overcome your lifetraps. In some cases, the authors do recommend therapy in addition to self-help work as the more severe the problem, the more likely a therapist would be helpful. Now you may be wondering, "What is this lifetrap business all about?" A lifetrap can be defined as a pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaving (i.e., personality pattern) that has its origins in childhood and is a result of something that was done to us by our parents/caretakers (e.g., over-protection, harsh criticism, physical or sexual abuse, emotional neglect). Lifetraps cause us to become stuck in a repetitive pattern of interacting with others and the world that, time after time, get us into trouble with relationships and/or work. In short, life-traps lead us into self-defeating behaviour that blocks us from fully realizing our potentials and living a happy and successful life. Some of the common lifetraps the authors identify are called Unrelenting Standards (i.e., excessive self-criticism/perfectionism), Mistrust and Abuse, Abandonment, and Social Exclusion. I will briefly describe a few of them. The Mistrust & Abuse Lifetrap involves having a general distrust of others, which interferes with closeness and intimacy, but at the same time, also having a tendency to get involved in abusive relationships. The Unrelenting Standards Lifetrap involves harshly criticizing oneself when not achieving one's goals. Because this lifetrap involves perfectionistic standards (i.e., unattainable goals), this makes it easy for your inner critic to walk all over you when you "fail." You can check out the Table of Contents to see the full list of lifetraps. After coming to a full understanding of your particular lifetrap(s), each chapter then describes specific strategies to help you overcome your self-defeating pattern. To help change unhelpful thinking patterns, rational challenging of your thoughts (a cognitive strategy) and evidence-testing of your beliefs (a behavioral strategy) are suggested, which are based on the idea that changing your thinking and behaviour will change how you feel. One specific cognitive method is to write reminder/coaching cards to yourself. For instance, you could write rational statements that prepare for when you get into a situation you might get into trouble. For instance, let's say you are prone to harsh self-criticism before a high-pressure situation (e.g., a demanding work project). In your mind, if you really attend to what's going on mentally, you may notice such harsh self-talk such as, "You suck!" and "You know you'll fail!" These statements may leave you feeling inadequate, anxious, and unmotivated. Before starting the project, though, you can pull out the coaching card to help you challenge such critical thoughts and get you in a rational head space and more emotionally energized to work. In addition to cognitive and behavioral strategies, the authors also offer experiential strategies. As a psychotherapist, I have used this book with clients and will continue to do so. A person who is committed to changing and willing do the hard work will benefit greatly from its strategies. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Sometimes painful to read, but one of the most insightful books you will ever read *by A***R on July 7, 2019* Let me start by saying that I've read dozens of self-help books, been in therapy for 4+ years throughout my life, have a Bachelor's in Psychology and did research in a psychology lab for over a year. In other words, I'm pretty familiar with psychology and the way the brains learns. With all that said, **this is one of the best psychology books I've read** (I'd put it above Firestone's "Fear of Intimacy" - both seem to talk about the same issues of schemas but in different ways). This book has provided case studies that reflected my own life, distinct lifetraps (or schemas) that help categorize my issues, and examples of origins that explain when, how, and why these schemas developed in me. I have zero doubt that anyone who reads these pages will not benefit tremendously in their day-to-day functioning afterwards. This book is still 100% a 5-star read for me. The only two downsides are that 1) the book is a bit outdated. However, you can get a pretty good look at your life's history through these pages and look up some more up to date info on schemas/lifetraps online. 2) If your problems are minor (as some of mine are), the book offers solutions that can probably fix those. However, if your problems are deep (as others of mine are) the solutions offered by the book alone won't be enough to fix your problems. I will be in therapy, no doubt. However, the insight it can provide leads you to understand why you are the way you are - a gift I think any of us would cherish and I certainly will. This book's insight has taken the blame, guilt, shame, and self-hatred out of my life that I've carried around for so long for so much of what I have done. There are not many gifts that can surpass a feeling such as that. Buy this book, read it, understand your life, see the reasons why you are the way you are more clearly, and be kinder to others and yourself as a result. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ The most insightful and effective bibliotherapy… *by E***N on October 5, 2025* I can’t praise this book enough. I do believe that this book is the first step to healing and changing unhealthy thoughts and responses. It is quite painful to realize how damage I am yet so enlightening to find reasons why. Most of all, it is motivating that healing is never impossible… I’m grateful for the brilliant minds and hopeful hearts of the authors. ## Frequently Bought Together - Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great Again - Schema Therapy: A Practitioner's Guide - Breaking Negative Thinking Patterns: A Schema Therapy Self-Help and Support Book --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.nz/products/6383268-reinventing-your-life-the-breakthrough-program-to-end-negative-behavior](https://www.desertcart.nz/products/6383268-reinventing-your-life-the-breakthrough-program-to-end-negative-behavior) --- *Product available on Desertcart New Zealand* *Store origin: NZ* *Last updated: 2026-06-02*