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An accessible user's guide to overcoming trauma from the creator of a scientifically proven form of psychotherapy that has successfully treated millions of people worldwide. Whether we’ve experienced small setbacks or major traumas, we are all influenced by our memories and by experiences we may not remember or fully understand. Getting Past Your Past offers practical techniques that demystify the human condition and empower readers looking to take charge of their lives. Shapiro, the creator of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), explains how our personalities develop and why we become trapped into feeling, believing and acting in ways that don't serve us. Through detailed examples and exercises readers will learn to understand themselves, and why the people in their lives act the way they do. Most importantly, readers will also learn techniques to improve their relationships, break through emotional barriers, overcome limitations, and excel in ways taught to Olympic athletes, successful executives, and performers. An easy conversational style, humor, and fascinating real life stories make it simple to understand the brain science, why we get stuck in various ways and how to achieve real change. Review: I LOVE this book for true self-help! - I've gone through EMDR therapy with a professional then came across Shapiro's book years later. As the creator of this amazing therapy, her insights are incredibly trustworthy about how we can help ourselves in addition to professional guidance as needed. If you are interested in learning more about EMDR, I suggest you start with this book first AND ALSO find a certified therapist to take you through a thorough healing journey. Review: A Spark in the Dark - This is a wonderful book. There are no ifs ands or buts about that. And EMDR is a powerful tool. I'm a Therapist, and if EMDR was say, a pair of pliers, I'd have worn it out years ago. However, in my opinion, that is missing the main point. This is a book that brings an understanding of how negative life experiences in the past can live on and shape what is going on in the 'now' to a broad audience. It is the 'broad audience' part that really makes this book valuable. It is more than just the quite common theme, 'My "tool" works better than your favorite tool for healing' type of book. Or my theory is better than your theory. Many books on healing and growth focus most of their energy on either the 'why' or the 'how'. One of the keys to healing and growth is having a good balance: an understanding of the 'why', along with some strong tools for transformation. A good understanding of the why, with no tools, weak tools or the wrong tools leaves one strongly self aware, but stuck in the mess. Having great tools is wonderful, but without some understanding of the how, why and when you should use them, you may be figuratively using a jack hammer in an attempt to build a birdhouse. The why gives you a roadmap, the how gives you tools to get down the road. Francine does a solid job of helping one discern their own personal map and a wide array of tools one may select from in her book. The word personal is key as well. It's not handing one a map, it is helping one build their own map. It is not saying 'These are the tools.' It is providing a wide selection of tools one may choose, or not choose to apply. Tools that you can decide if they might fit for you and if so, how they work for you. One of the things with EMDR that is so notable is that as a Therapist you are not 'doing' EMDR to someone. You help your Client build a map, identify and strengthen tools. Then you help them activate their own built in healing process and stay 'out of the way' other than helping them get unstuck if necessary. I often say when I'm working 'your brain knows what it needs to do to heal'. And it does! In interest of full disclosure, I am a Therapist who uses EMDR extensively. I as well volunteer for the humanitarian organization EMDR HAP as a Facilitator: ie.e. someone who does the hands on application of skills training for Therapists who work with underserved populations. EMDR has been a powerful tool for me, both as a Therapist and on the other side of the 'couch' receiving EMDR myself. EMDR is very robust. It appears that when one experiences overwhelming events it is 'stored' in the brain in a different form of memory than 'normal' memory. Often that memory stays in that form and links to other memories stored in a similar fashion. When that memory is evoked it is experienced like it is happening now, often with the power of many other past events 'plugged' in to it. EMDR seems to tap into a natural self healing mechanism so that once an event is processed to resolution, the 'energy' is out of it. It is difficult to convey the power of EMDR I have witnessed in my Client's lives, my own life and watching as Trainees work on very strong material as part of their training. That is what Francine has done an excellent job of conveying in her book. Understanding how overwhelming events may influence our life, friends, families and others lives, and the world is important. And having the tools to begin healing, allows one to begin alleviating suffering. As well to bring forth the gifts we all possess, that seem to be 'frozen' in the bad stuff from the past that replays like a dollar night horror movie, really brings a boundless cascade of good stuff to our lives and the world. What Francine does with this book is bring the good things that she has learned about healing over the years, in re both the map and the tools, to the reader. She is intentionally bringing the healing sparks in the dark into the life of all readers, not just those who are Therapists . That is her intent with this book, to make that healing more widely available in the world. We can choose to ignore those sparks, or light them in ourselves and thus bring them to the world. They are always there waiting for us when we are ready for the light.


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N**S
I LOVE this book for true self-help!
I've gone through EMDR therapy with a professional then came across Shapiro's book years later. As the creator of this amazing therapy, her insights are incredibly trustworthy about how we can help ourselves in addition to professional guidance as needed. If you are interested in learning more about EMDR, I suggest you start with this book first AND ALSO find a certified therapist to take you through a thorough healing journey.
V**G
A Spark in the Dark
This is a wonderful book. There are no ifs ands or buts about that. And EMDR is a powerful tool. I'm a Therapist, and if EMDR was say, a pair of pliers, I'd have worn it out years ago. However, in my opinion, that is missing the main point. This is a book that brings an understanding of how negative life experiences in the past can live on and shape what is going on in the 'now' to a broad audience. It is the 'broad audience' part that really makes this book valuable. It is more than just the quite common theme, 'My "tool" works better than your favorite tool for healing' type of book. Or my theory is better than your theory. Many books on healing and growth focus most of their energy on either the 'why' or the 'how'. One of the keys to healing and growth is having a good balance: an understanding of the 'why', along with some strong tools for transformation. A good understanding of the why, with no tools, weak tools or the wrong tools leaves one strongly self aware, but stuck in the mess. Having great tools is wonderful, but without some understanding of the how, why and when you should use them, you may be figuratively using a jack hammer in an attempt to build a birdhouse. The why gives you a roadmap, the how gives you tools to get down the road. Francine does a solid job of helping one discern their own personal map and a wide array of tools one may select from in her book. The word personal is key as well. It's not handing one a map, it is helping one build their own map. It is not saying 'These are the tools.' It is providing a wide selection of tools one may choose, or not choose to apply. Tools that you can decide if they might fit for you and if so, how they work for you. One of the things with EMDR that is so notable is that as a Therapist you are not 'doing' EMDR to someone. You help your Client build a map, identify and strengthen tools. Then you help them activate their own built in healing process and stay 'out of the way' other than helping them get unstuck if necessary. I often say when I'm working 'your brain knows what it needs to do to heal'. And it does! In interest of full disclosure, I am a Therapist who uses EMDR extensively. I as well volunteer for the humanitarian organization EMDR HAP as a Facilitator: ie.e. someone who does the hands on application of skills training for Therapists who work with underserved populations. EMDR has been a powerful tool for me, both as a Therapist and on the other side of the 'couch' receiving EMDR myself. EMDR is very robust. It appears that when one experiences overwhelming events it is 'stored' in the brain in a different form of memory than 'normal' memory. Often that memory stays in that form and links to other memories stored in a similar fashion. When that memory is evoked it is experienced like it is happening now, often with the power of many other past events 'plugged' in to it. EMDR seems to tap into a natural self healing mechanism so that once an event is processed to resolution, the 'energy' is out of it. It is difficult to convey the power of EMDR I have witnessed in my Client's lives, my own life and watching as Trainees work on very strong material as part of their training. That is what Francine has done an excellent job of conveying in her book. Understanding how overwhelming events may influence our life, friends, families and others lives, and the world is important. And having the tools to begin healing, allows one to begin alleviating suffering. As well to bring forth the gifts we all possess, that seem to be 'frozen' in the bad stuff from the past that replays like a dollar night horror movie, really brings a boundless cascade of good stuff to our lives and the world. What Francine does with this book is bring the good things that she has learned about healing over the years, in re both the map and the tools, to the reader. She is intentionally bringing the healing sparks in the dark into the life of all readers, not just those who are Therapists . That is her intent with this book, to make that healing more widely available in the world. We can choose to ignore those sparks, or light them in ourselves and thus bring them to the world. They are always there waiting for us when we are ready for the light.
K**N
Excellent companion for therapy work
I've been working with a therapist on a few issues, and we've been working on incorporating EMDR into my treatment (my therapist is trained in this modality). Reading this book on loan made me realize I had to purchase my own, and I've discussed several passages with my therapist which we were then able to incorporate into my treatment. The author is the creator of EMDR and this book gives some background for the layperson and discusses how to use techniques with and without a therapist. The author reminds the reader that if they're getting into topics or memories that are painful, complex, or overwhelming, that they should consult a counselor or other psychotheraputic professional. There are several writing exercises that could be used with or without a therapist, both as a way to examine your own thoughts and give a useful jumping-off point for sessions. Part of the book that spoke most to me was the discussion of C-PTSD. C-PTSD is Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder - when the trauma was on-going and less a discrete event. Because EMDR is known so well for its use in treating PTSD from individual incidents (eg, an attack, an accident, etc) I wasn't sure how well it would apply to a more long-term/chronic issue that resulted in C-PTSD. This book helped give my therapist and me a better angle to pursue and it worked very well. I'd recommend actually doing the writing exercises when possible and making special note of standout incidents - whether you're in therapy or not. It may be worth talking to a therapist/counselor even if you feel like you have everything "dealt with", just in case there's a solution you haven't considered. All in all, excellent book and I'm so glad I read it.
A**R
wonderful Work
This is a great first read for anyone who wants to learn about EMDR. As with any of the new developments in Psychology, and developing therapies presented In this book, you’ll find the work informative, fun and fascinating as it mirrors some of the more modern vehicles for recovery, such as NLP, TFT, visualization, hypnosis etc…What’s great about EMDR is its success, EMDR works.
C**S
Great book to learn about EMDR Therapy
This book helped me understand what EMDR therapy is, why it is needed, and how it can help process raw memories that are holding us back in the past. The gist of this type of therapy is that trauma (big and small) can cause some memories not to process correctly in our memory banks, so later on in life when something triggers that memory, all the original, raw emotions are still attached to that initial subconscious memory, and these raw emotions can cause us to act irrationally. These unprocessed memories cause misbeliefs to be formed in our subconscious–thoughts like I am worthless or I don’t have any control of my life–and these affect how we react to present situations in strange, often negative, ways. This therapy helps you learn how to find a safe place in your mind and to float back to memories that make you feel certain ways. Using eye movement (which seems to help stimulate the brain to bring up matching memories related to the misbelief, the therapist guides the patient through memories to help them find the core misbelief that is negatively affecting their present life. It was a very fascinating read, learning more about how our brains work and the many different reasons why people might do the dumb, cruel, or self-defeating behaviors due to these misbeliefs they unconsciously hold onto.
A**3
Great book for self help exercises but even better to work with a therapist
I got this via interlibrary loan. It's very slow and dense reading for me but it is so packed with useful info and tips - EMDR therapy is body centered and addresses PTSD and old trauma memories so they are integrated and resolved. I have a therapist and this book is an adjunct - recommened by my therapist and written by the woman that 'discovered' the rapid eye movement techniques. I decided that I had to own the book because it will be useful for years to come. It came in great condition, shipped with care, and fast.
B**R
It's the memories stupid
I get it, "It's the memories stupid". That's how our session started after my client read GPYP. Although we worked very successfully together, it was not until she read Dr. Shapiro's book, Getting Past your Past", did she "fully" appreciate how the influences of her past poorly integrated memories negatively impacted her current relationship with her son. It's not that I didn't know it before she said, but the book was just so clear in illustrating how distressing life events can get locked in the nervous system and affect the way we respond to present life events without us being aware of their influence. The book really helped me look at a number of current situations with fresh eyes". I'm sure my clients revelation is not unique to her. I as a practicing EMDR therapist, I too had a similar experience. As you read people's stories, your brain can't help but associate to situations in your own life of how negative experiences still influence you today. That tendency of the mind to associate, is fundamental to EMDR. Dr. Shapiro's suggests a number of techniques, to help one utilize that associative process to illuminate, draw connections and provide clarity between current life difficulties and the events, from the past, that influence them. "It's the memories stupid", that determine why we suffer and how we can find ways of changing. In addition to clarifying the connection between today and yesterday, the techniques in the book increase an individual's capacity to know how those memories are actually impinging on the present--for my client, it was the awareness that the negativity of her own childhood made her doubt her self as a parent--and therefore looking at her son for confirmation of her own value as a mother. There are exercises that teach people to address those negative beliefs and affects by generating compassion and adding resources that reinforce their self capacities. By carefully following the exercises one learns to put their past in the past, and by doing so finally appreciate that they are "bigger" than their disturbing life experiences and therefore have more choice as to how to operate in the present. I cannot recommend more strongly Dr. Shapiro's, Getting Past your Past. Whether, client, clinician, doctor, lawyer or Indian Chief, your life will be improved from your effort.
D**T
Recommended if you know about Francine Shapiro (EMDR, Trama, PTSD and/or Dissociative disorders)
People who look up their mysterious medical symptoms and then believe everything they come across on google applies to them, will not enjoy this book. Students and other career-oriented folks who aren't already intimately familiar with these issues, properly won't get much from it either. This is an extremely complicated subject that doesn't lend itself well to "do it yourself" at home mentalities. But for those who are truly dedicated to their patient's perspective and those motivated to help themselves understand what's happening to them, this is a well written refreshing collection of concepts and uplifting stories. The book represents one more tool to help people in distress find some hope, relief, and peace. Weird tiny font did make this paperback harder to read but thank God I'm pretty motivated.
A**A
Highly recommended ! Happy healing !
A must read to learn various techniques on healing and specially EMDR therapy ! I have been reading this book and trying out various techniques from it , very life changing experience! We can do this ! We can heal and live a better and happy life knowing ourselves better and regulating our emotions well.
P**I
Mindfulness interesante
En perfectas condiciones Para aprender sobre el mindfulness.
P**A
Helpful addition to my psychotherapy
I’ve learned about EMDR first via my therapist working on my complex PTSD. This intrigued me to find out more about Francine Shapiro‘s framework for trauma sensitive therapy. In this book you’ll find many information on the topic, illustrated by plenty of examples. Based on this theoretical framework Shapiro offers a program with exercises to detect unprocessed memories as well as trauma associated cognitions and emotions that still affect your behavior. As a next step you’ll find techniques to help your neuronal system to process these memories or step by step change your maladaptive cognitions, emotions and behavior. So, in addition to the work I do with my therapist, this helps a lot to stabilize myself and get more into depth. I can highly recommend the work of Francine Shapiro.
J**R
Well written and useful.
Very good book, well written. I highly recommend for everyone.
A**Y
It's never too late to have good childhood?
Essential reading for all I believe, to understand how any level of trauma from childhood or adulthood can affect your every day behaviours and what can be done to unravel/ process them.
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