Please Understand ME by D - Paperback

Great follow up to the first book.

Premessa: sono un professionista del mbti che lo possedeva ma l'ha riacquistato perché ho regalto la mia copia. Il libro, per chi conosce e applica mbti, è un portone aperto di conoscenza utile per inquadrare subito chi hai davanti. Utile per le selezioni del personale, per capire meglio i colleghi o il capo ma anche chi ci stà più vicino. E' utile, a mio avviso, a integrazione del bagaglio personale, di qualsiasi figura commerciale. E' perfettamente strutturato e ognuno dei quattro temperamenti può essere studiato in maniera indipendente ed è facile anche la comparazione tra più temperamenti. E' IN LINGUA INGLESE, pertanto se non si conosce è inutile prenderlo. Piccola nota contro sulla consegna: mi è arrivato con la copertina leggermente rovinata, tipico di uno stoccaggio in magazzino non ottimale. Non è comunque un problema.

After applying for a job a few months ago, I got interested in the kind of questions I got asked. My search lead me to MBTI, but the information I found on the Internet was vague, sometimes even inaccurate. After taking a few online tests and reading those online one-page-descriptions of some of the characters, I was confused. More than one of those character descriptions seemed to fit. So I ordered Keirsey's book, and after taking the test and reading the 40+ pages of my temperament and the corresponding pages of my character, everything was clear to me and I was convinced of the accuracy of Keirsey's system based on MBTI. After reading the book a few times, I am able to tell which personality most of my friends and colleagues are, sometimes even which character. It's a lot of fun. I was also surprised to read about my strengths and weaknesses, and although being aware of most of them, some of them (and not only minor ones) were new to me, but I had to admit: yes, it's true. "Please understand me II" is (for me as a Rationalist who seeks knowlegde all the time) one of the most interesting and fascinating books I ever had the pleasure to read. For you non-native English speakers out there: my English is far from perfect, but the book is not too hard to understand. It's a pity though the book is not available in German, it would make a great present.

It's a book that came highly recommended and did not disappoint.

This book changed my life. It changed how I see and think of myself and other people. It's helped me learn to love and value people who have different values. If you've never taken the Myer's Brigg personality test I highly recommend that you do (you can take it on line for free) and then buy or borrow a copy of this book. There are sixteen main personality types. Most people fall into one type, but some (like me) cross over and can have more than one type which means we're elastic, personality shape shifters. If I didn't understand this about myself I wouldn't understand myself! If you can't understand yourself, you have no hope of understanding anyone else! If you've ever wondered why certain people in your life or family make no sense; why no matter how hard you try to explain yourself they still stare at you with a confused expression (even though they're not stupid)...get this book and give them the test (it's in the book). You'll probably discover that these people really are having difficulty understanding you because they probably do not share your way of thinking/communication. There may be sixteen different personality types, but these are broken into two main communication groups. SP/SJ's ( who are concrete thinkers and see the world concretely through their senses) and the NF/NT's (who are intuitive thinkers and relate to the world intuitively). Even though I took the test nearly twenty years ago, it was only five years ago that I finally understood the difference between concrete and intuitive thinkers. They use completely different language and even simple words mean completely different things...so you can bet money that when an NT (Spock) has to talk to an SP (any artist) there is going to be miss-communication (unless one of them is like me who happens to be an NT/NF/SP in which case they'll usually unconsciously fluctuate into whichever language is needed). I've found it best to avoid mixing my SP/SJ friends with my NF/NT friends. They're like oil and water' mixing them just doesn't work. They tend to stare at each other with thinly veiled confusion or contempt and I'm left in the middle trying to translate. I've learned to avoid mixing friends, but family gatherings are another story. When SJ/SP family members try to communicate with NT/NF family members (and my family of nine is about half and half) all hell tends to break loose as frustration mounts, but if we can come to understand our differences (personality wise) and our different values and view points we can at least respect each other even if we don't really understand why some other people think XY and Z is remotely important because to us it isn't. If you have people in your life that you love, but don't understand...give them the test and share your personalities. This book is a phenomenal tool in learning how to love other people.